I walked into a courtroom for the second time this year and talked to a judge about a recent loss.  After six years, four months, and eight days of marriage it’s officially and legally done for.  Yeah, it’s been coming for a long time and has essentially been over since November…but getting the documents signed and filed means it’s truly over and done with.  I have looked inwards and discovered a strange sense of uncertainty.

Not about myself.  I feel more sure of myself now than I ever have in my life.  But I’ve been dealing with death and divorce for so long there will truly be a gap that I’m not used to having.  My hope is to recharge the ol’ emotional Duracell’s and return to a place of understanding and stability.  I no longer have to organize and plan around the legal system and that’s definitely going to be a de-stresser.  The last of the related bills are paid or scheduled in a way that I shouldn’t have any additional craziness over and above the typical day-to-day random expenditures that crop up.

I’ve done all this and maintained relationships with my friends.  Thank you all for sticking with me during these ups and downs.  It’s not over, but the worst has definitely passed.  I’ve started exercising regularly and feel good about it.  I am doing well at my job and am seeing some doors open thanks to my hard work.  I feel cared for and know that I have a network of people to lean on when the night is unfriendly.

Time to move forward.

About rhysfunk

Rhys Martin was born in Tulsa, Oklahoma in 1981. In 2009, he sold everything he owned and left the country, living out of a backpack for ten months. He discovered a passion for photography while traveling throughout Southeast Asia and Europe. After returning home, he looked at his home town and Oklahoma heritage with fresh eyes. When he began to explore his home state, Rhys turned his attention to historic Route 66. As he became familiar with the iconic highway, he began to truly appreciate Oklahoma’s place along the Mother Road. He has traveled all 2,400 miles of Route 66, from Chicago to Los Angeles. He has also driven many miles on rural Oklahoma highways to explore the fading Main Streets of our small towns. Rhys has a desire to find and share the unique qualities of the Sooner State with the rest of the world. Cloudless Lens Photography has been featured in several publications including This Land, Route 66 Magazine, Nimrod Journal, Inbound Asia Magazine, The Oklahoman, and the Tulsa World. In 2018 he published his first book, Lost Restaurants of Tulsa. Rhys loves to connect with people and share his experiences; ask him about enjoyable day trips from Tulsa, locations along Route 66, and good diners or burger joints along the way.
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