Today we’re heading to Ubud, Bali, Indonesia. It should be good times as there is a monkey forest there, among other interesting places.
But this post isn’t about that. It’s about a decision Indi and I talked about before we even had our estate sale that we’re finally going to put into action. We’re going to travel solo until our flight leaves on July 16th.
You see, part of the reason I wanted to take this journey was to discover myself and build a more solid foundation. I don’t think that can truly be done when you’re constantly around someone that knows who you were in your old life and serves as a ‘comfortable’ replacement for actually growing as a person.
I’ll give you an example. When I went to Ubud the other day with the crew of CouchSurfers, I found myself mostly talking about Indi. At some point I stopped and wondered if I had anything to say for myself. I seem to have a habit of living for others before myself, and while that serves a purpose, it should not be the status quo. I find it hard at time to form a solid opinion because I can’t stop considering others to consider myself.
This may not make a lot of sense to you, but it does for us. If we lose who we are as individuals, it sets us up for failure. This will also allow us to truly understand the positive/negative things we bring to each other as a couple and form a stronger bond. And as an added bonus, I’ll have the extra confidence that I’m doing this myself, not just riding Indi’s coattails. Did you know the office had a pool on how long I’d last out here?
Our split won’t happen for a few more days, after Ubud. I’ll have the laptop but Indi will have the camera. You’ll still hear from both of us via wi-fi or internet cafes, as usual.